Christmas lights lit up the tiny dorm room and Nat King Cole's "The Christmas Song" played from my stereo. I couldn't believe the holiday season was already in full swing. Time flies! All I had left was a week of finals and then Christmas break.

Overall, I thought the semester had gone well. Occasionally, I had been stressed out or had a disagreement with my roommate, but nothing major had happened.

But then something major did happen. I was brushing my teeth, getting ready to go out that night, when my roommate suddenly blurted it out: "I'm not going to live with you next semester."

Before I had a chance to spit out the toothpaste and ask why, she left the room. What had I done? I was both mad and hurt.

I sat on the floor in shock. I replayed scenes from the semester in my mind. But I couldn't think of a situation that would even hint I was difficult to live with. I even remembered telling my friends how much I appreciated living with her.

Instead of sharing the truth, she hid her feelings from me and let them build over the semester, until . . . kaboom! Everything was out in the open and one big mess.

Apparently, we had different roommate expectations. She wanted a roommate who would spend more time with her both in and out of the dorm room. And I wanted a roommate who would give me my space.

Every person is a unique creation of God. So we each handle things differently. But don't let those differences create a barrier. Be honest about what you're feeling, and compromise on things when you can. If you're honest in the beginning, there's less chance of an explosion in the end.

As you read this special issue, you'll find more tips on adjusting to college life, including a whole article on living with all kinds of roommates (see page 50). Remember that everyone's experience will be different. But you can trust that God already knows what's ahead, and he's got it under control.

Krishana & your friends @ Campus Life