Hey, did you hear about the "10 Minute Rule"? Well, it goes something like this: If your prof's 10 minutes late to class, you can get up and leave. It's a rule? Not really. Just one of those college myths probably started by a student who wanted an excuse to skip class and head over to the student union for a cup of coffee.
Then, of course, there's the "Dead Roommate" clause. It goes something like this: If your roommate dies, you get a 4.0 for the semester. Supposedly, this great grade-point average will "compensate" for all the trauma and grief you experienced because of the whole horrible ordeal.
Again, no. Not a rule.
OK, let's be real here. There are tons of college-related myths out there. So you'll want to separate reality from rumor.
After all, you don't want to start college thinking your roommate might do you in just to make the dean's list.
Did you know this? If you don't meet your future spouse during college, you'll never get married. Relax, it's a myth.
Unfortunately, some colleges have gained a reputation as a sort of "Marriage Factory." You go there to look for a mate, and within a year after graduation (or even before graduation) you're happily married. I'm sure you've heard the dumb old joke about the girl who's working on her M.R.S. degree… .
Anyway, because of this myth, many students spend a lot of time—time better spent studying or building friendships—searching for that perfect man or woman.
But keep two things in mind:
1) There is no perfect man or woman.
2) College is primarily about getting an education, not about finding a mate.
OK, some people do end up falling in love at college—and some of those people do get married. But you and your parents are not forking out bundles of bills so you can find a future mate. If love happens, cool. If not, hey, no problem. Learning—and applying your faith to what you're learning—is your first priority.
There are a few myths about friendship, and some of them contradict each other. Consider this one: You'll never make new friends! Or the fictional flip side: Everybody on campus will be your friend!
Here's the reality: Friendship will happen. You will make friends, but making friends will take some work. In a sense, you're starting all over. You're going to have to take some chances, like saying "hello" to someone you don't know. You're going to have to get involved in some activities, like intramural basketball or French club.
Yes, you'll need to do something to make friends. But, again, friendship is going to happen. As for being a friend to everyone on campus? Well, just concentrate on a few good friends—you know, quality, not quantity.
While we're talking about friendship, here's another myth: You and your roommate will be best friends. Oh, it could happen. You two might get along really well.
You might go to some concerts together. You might study together. You might read e-mails from home to each other. But on the other hand, you might never see each other because your schedules are so different. You might not even want to spend time together, because your personalities are so different. If you and your roommate aren't great friends, it doesn't mean you've got the world's worst roommate. It also doesn't mean you're doing something wrong. You're simply roommates, not close friends.
Welcome to Perfect U
It's tempting to think that because you're going to a Christian college, you're landing in some sort of heaven with dorms. Everybody always gets along. Everybody loves school all the time. There are no problems. No doubt about it: You'll be transported to educational paradise. In a sentence, this myth states: A Christian college is a perfect place.